DAY 1
DEVELOPING A
NEW MENTALITY
1.) Gain a new perspective
on how to be safe.
2.) Develop a survival
mindset with your mind, heart, and soul (theCORE of our person).
3.) Understand that you have options.
a.) The criminal has options.
b.) The criminal understands his options.
4.) Understand that you can and will use these options.
a.) The criminal will use his options.
b.) The criminal will be in action mode, so you must be also.
5.)
Rehearse your options in order
to put your options and your new mindset into action when
needed.
a.) You are probably not the criminal’s first victim.
b.) Since you are not, he has had practice at his crimes.
c.) The criminal has rehearsed his plan and knows what he is doing.
d.) He is counting on you not being sure of how to handle the situation.
e.) If you do not do what he says, his plan is no longer useful. Get him confused rather than you being unsure. He will try to intimidate you. If he cannot do this, his plan is no longer useful.
f.) Plan and tell yourself that you will put your plan into action no matter what.
g.) They have a plan, why not you?
6.) Step outside of your frame of reference.
a.)
You have self-imposed rules.
b.) You have limited yourself.
7.)
Change your attitude.
a.)
Get rid of your “it will
never happen to me” attitude.
b.) This type of attitude makes you unaware and consequently unsafe.
c.) Make life saving decisions.
d.) Empower yourself and be mentally fit to help break your wall of fear in order to be able to do what you think you cannot do.
8.)
Get the control back.
a.) They want you to put
your guard down. At this point they
know they are in control.
b.)
If one does not know how to
react, their guard is down. Change
his plans by reacting as a
survivor and not a victim. This
will make his guard go down.
9.)
Never, never, never give up.
PHYSICAL
DEFENSE
1.)
Reinforced Defense
2.)
Breaking Hand Holds
3.)
Breaking Hug Holds
4.)
Pressure Points
5.)
Leverage, angles, and gravity
versus size and strength
PUBLIC
SITUATIONS
1.)
Shopping malls, walks, parks,
business, etc
2.)
Assailant armed or not.
3.)
Being approached.
4.)
Security guards. It is their job.
5.) Don’t park
underground.
1.)
Don’t hug the corners.
2.)
Be prepared.
1.)
Property vs. your safety
(throw and run).
2.)
Isolation = Violence (like in
home).
3.)
If they harm you in a public
place, they surely will harm you in a private place.
4.)
Never, ever go to crime scene
number 2, which is anywhere but crime scene number 1.
5.)
Walk with a purpose (but not
oblivious).
6.)
Carry something that looks
like it could be used as a weapon.
7.)
Remain in well lit and
populated areas if possible.
8.)
Before approaching car
a.)
Have your keys ready.
b.)
Be aware of your surroundings.
c.)
Look the situation over (under
your car, in your back seat, anything suspicious).
16.) Risk- or is it?
17.) Always
have money accessible outside of major source.
a.)
You will not have to take them
to your ATM.
b.)
It will diffuse the situation
more rapidly.
c.)
They will leave you alone as
they got what wanted.
d.)
It can also be used for
emergency.
e.)
They will not get everything.
18.) Intuition
19.) Don’t ignore warning
signs where you feel uneasy.
DAY 2
VICTIM PROFILE
1.)
A person who looks down,
slumped over, and looks unprotected (weak posturing).
2.) A person who looks scared and lacking in confidence.
3.) Older people and women (although this is slowly changing).
4.) People who look too busy to know what is going on (unaware).
5.) A person with no visible protection (would you attack a person on a walk who has a big stick or wait for one who does not).
6.) The criminal is looking for a target. Don’t be one. DON’T ADVERTISE
a.)
Beware of the kind of car you
drive.
b.) Beware of the accessories on your car.
c.) Jewelry
d.) Expensive clothing.
e.) Name brand items.
f.) Parking in non-populated areas.
g.) Parking in dark areas.
h.) Being in a position where there is limited escape routes (parking garage, against a wall).
7.) Gangs, at times, look for a victim who will challenge them back.
a.)
Flashing brights
b.)
Eye contact
c.)
Games on the road (passing and
slowing down)
d.)
Any challenge to their egos
8.) Are you alone?!
Be in groups when possible.
YOUR ABILITIES
AND STRENGTHS
1.)
Adrenaline, Noradrenaline,
Endorphins (remember the stories of women lifting cars off their children).
Reverse the energy being used as fear and make it into strength.
2.)
Fight or Flight Response
3.)
The criminal is a person, you
are a person
4.)
They will lie, you can lie
5.)
You have the knowledge that
crimes happen. You have the
hindsight to not make the same mistakes as past victims have made. You have the power to do it differently.
6.)
You have the power to take
risks with the criminal before it has gone too far (don’t put it off until
later).
7.)
You can yell.
a.)
This distracts them.
b.)
This empowers you.
c.)
This can scare them.
d.)
More people will be interested if fighting, ie bystander
effect.
1.)
You can hit.
2.)
You can distract.
3.)
You can get away and/or fight
back.
4.)
You can be passive aggressive.
5.)
You can fool him, be compliant
and then attack or run.
6.)
You know your safety and
survival is more important than theirs.
7.)
Even if you get hurt you can
still fight back. Don’t let the
fear override your decision to live.
8.)
The statistics are on your
side.
PHYSICAL
DEFENSE
1.)
Strikes
2.)
Punches
3.)
Pressure Points
4.)
Distance Management
a.)
Avoiding
b.)
Avoiding and Attacking
c.)
Blocking, Avoiding, and
Attacking
CAR CRIMES AND
SCHEMES
1.)
Car Jackings
a.)
It only takes a second.
b.)
Lock doors, be aware, be
careful with convertibles.
c.)
Floor it.
d.)
Don’t open window.
e.)
If help is needed,
go and call.
f.)
Gun issue.
g.)
Wreck the car if they gain
access, then get out and run.
2.)
Car Bumping Schemes
a.)
Leave to safe place.
b.)
Stay in car.
c.)
Control your kids and spouse
or anyone else in car. They could
put you in danger.
d.)
Keep car running.
e.)
Non-criminals will not mind
terribly if you go to a safe place.
f.)
Get a pre-written card with
insurance agent’s name and number (no personal information).
g.)
Strong- “my safety first,
their feelings second.”
3.)
Stranded (10 million cars next
year)
a.)
Not, not, not safe in car.
b.)
Look for city lights or farm
lights.
c.)
Stay off of road and shoulder.
d.)
Prepare car.
i.)
Appropriate clothing
ii.) First
Aid
iii.) Lights
iv.) Jumper
Cables
v.)
Phone
vi.) Full
tank of gas
vii.) Proper
Maintenance
viii.) Know your location and
directions
ix.) Leave
space in front of you for a quick getaway
DAY 3
BASIC CRIMINAL
PROFILE
1.)
They are counting on you to
not be focused.
a.)
Develop, rehearse, and
implement your defense plan.
b.)
Develop, rehearse, and
implement your coping plan.
(ie, deep breaths, counting to 10, imagery when in situation, picture
self at scene and
responding, expect to get hurt).
2.)
They are people with distorted
thinking. They are capable of
escalating their criminal behaviors when they feel they got away with the
previous one. Stop the crime
pattern immediately.
3.)
Once they get angry, they lose
sight of their plan. This can be
good for you if you act on it.
Their anger will show through in many ways.
The threats may get stronger in an attempt to gain control.
Recognize this as a loss of control.
4.)
They are looking for control.
Don’t give it to them. Make
them a victim at this.
5.)
Typically, robbers commit
random violence.
6.)
They try to paralyze you with
fear. Know your adrenaline, etc. is
preparing you for fight or flight. Don’t
let it sit there and paralyze you.
7.)
They lie to you. Don’t believe them. “I
won’t hurt you if you do what I say” is a prime example, especially if it is
to hold your person against your will and take you to a second crime scene.
This is also an attempt to instill fear in you.
8.)
They are looking for
opportunity. Don’t give it to
them. They are looking for the easy
way and will bypass the difficult situation.
9.)
They are typically not
persuaded when you try to talk them out of it.
Pleading will not work (with one planned exception).
It will only empower them and make them think that they are in control.
PHYSICAL
DEFENSE
1.)
Throws
2.)
Sweeps
3.)
Pressure Points
4.)
Falls
DAY 4
HOME SAFETY
THOUGHTS
1.)
Keep doors locked at all
times.
2.)
Keep security system armed at
all times.
3.)
If no alarm system, get a
motion detector and display alarm company stickers anyway.
4.)
Do not leave doors unlocked
for children and if you do make sure child knows not to be followed in and to
lock the door behind him.
5.)
Have alarm key chain or panic
button on car/home alarm.
6.)
Display real or fake
surveillance cameras in open view around the house.
7.)
Get a radar watchdog if you
don’t have a real dog (most criminals say they do not mess with a house that
has a dog. Put up BEWARE OF DOG
signs around the perimeter of your house and yard.
8.)
Make sure that “WE” is
presented on answering machine, possibly with a man’s voice.
9.)
Get an expanded peephole if
needed.
10.) Cut back shrubbery
around windows and exits/entrances. Beware
of corners.
11.) Do you have a plan for
home deliveries and workmen (ie, are babysitters and even yourself aware of who
really should have access to your house on any given day)?
12.) If you live alone, put a
pair of old men’s shoes on the porch and/or dog bowls outside regardless if
you have a dog.
13.) Motion sensor lights.
Do your neighbors help with keeping areas lit at night?
14.) Is your life worth
$30.00 a month? Get a cellular
phone and keep it on you all the time. For
example, on walks, at the mall, in your car, by your bed in case of phone lines
down.
15.) Is your gate locked?
PHYSICAL
DEFENSE
1.)
Lower Level Kicks
2.)
Upper Level Kicks
3.)
Pressure Points
HOME SETTING
1.)
Intruder
a.)
Family Plan with roles
b.)
Yell “intruder, get out”
c.)
About 30% of all home
intrusions end up in violence.
d.)
Sliding glass doors, blocked
views, awareness of environment.
e.)
Is second crime scene.
f.)
911
g.)
Panic button- familiarize
yourself with your alarm system.
h.)
Imposter crimes
DAY 5
CRIMES AGAINST
THE PERSON CONSEQUENCES
1.)
Raped, shot, killed, beaten
2.)
Psychological consequences
3.)
Relationship consequences
4.)
Financial consequences
5.)
Trust issues
6.)
Others involved
PHYSICAL
DEFENSE
1.)
Typical Weaponry for self
a.)
Will be discussed briefly.
b.)
Offered in advanced course.
2.) Untypical Weaponry for
self (for attack and/or distraction)
a.)
Keys and Key Chain Kubotan
b.)
Credit Cards
c.)
Shoes
d.)
Coins
e.)
Purse
f.)
Jewelry
g.)
Finger Nails
h.)
Drinks (Hot or Cold), Spitting
i.)
Wallet
j.)
Whistle
k.) Zapper
l.)
Pens and pencils
m.) Miscellaneous
Options
(DO
NOT LEAVE WEAPONS IN SIGHT FOR THE ASSAILANT TO FIND
AND
USE ON YOU)
3.)
Weaponry on Assailant-
Basic Training and Knowledge
a.)
Knives
b.)
Guns
DAY 6
PHYSICAL
DEFENSE
Review